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Life is full of both good and bad things in our living. We know that too much of anything (“Everything in moderation”) isn’t healthy, actually both physcially and mentally. What is it that prevents us from being happy in our lives? Certainly there is some good in our life even if most of it is filled with things we wish we could avoid. Yet, we find ourselves so focused on our unhappiness that it prevents us from being happier.

You have to ask yourself what fills your mind up most of the day? What are you so focused on that you can’t see anything else. Is it a bad relationship? Your job? A loss? In our modern society, with all of its instant easy living, obsessiveness can come so quickly into our lives we may not even see it is there. Our obsessing over what ails us or what we don’t have becomes so much a focus that it blurs out everything else in our lives. I should know. I lived this way for such a long time.

UNABLE TO SEE BEYOND UNHAPPINESS

Ultimately that thing that drives our sense of unhappiness shines so brightly we can’t see anything else around us. Any good in our life is so overshadowed by the brightness of obsessive unhappiness we lose balance with who we are and who we are meant to be.

SO HOW DO YOU FIX IT?

I wish it was easy. If it was easy we’d be over it by now. Instead, we know it is hard so we avoid dealing with it because we know that even if we are in pain now, the pain of having to deal with something we have worked so hard to avoid would be so much more painful we think we couldn’t surivive the pain that would engulf us. Yes, it will be painful but it won’t end you. You will survive. Life is about survival. Everything living thing works to survive as its only truest goal in life.

Yet, life isn’t meant to just survive. Otherwise, we wouldn’t see a world full of obsessive, addictive people longing for something greater in their lives. Unhappiness dances with unhealthy thinking and addictive behaviors. Society has made it easy to deal with unhappiness in unproductive ways whether it be how easy it is to shop, how easy it is to get off, or how easy it is to pop a pill and forget.

Life is full of easy, accessible things that help us forget the hard things we know we should do to better our lives and make us happier. So we chosse the easy route instead of what we know is hard.

WHAT IS OUR ONE OBSESSIVE UNHAPPINESS FOCUS

Whatever it is that we obsess over as the reason for our unhappiness (our job, our weight, our relationship, our losses), is the one thing we need to focus on. If my unhappiness comes from how much I hate my job and how unhappy I am to be trapped in it, finding a way out of that job needs to be the most important thing in my life. If my unhappiness comes from a current bad relationship, one from the past, or a bad breakup, then that is the one thing I need to focus on.

Eating ice cream, getting high or getting off are just quick tempopary fixes to unhappiness that doesn’t last and often lead to more unhappiness. To be happy you cannot avoid the thing you know is there and eating you from inside out. You have to deal with it and starting now is the best time.

ANSWER THESE QUESTIONS

What is the greatest obsession in my mind that is preventing me from being happy?

What about it makes me so unhappy?

How would my life be different if I did not have this thing to obsess over?

Quick Q&As seem to be something we gravitate to. You can find FAQ sections on nearly every website and it is often the first place people look for when researching something on a website. We seeks answers to our questions and hope to find answers to them as quickly as we can. Taking the time to answer for your unhappiness is an important part of the equation of moving away from what is holdiing you back.

In order to get over something, we have to know what it is we need to get over. This is where the battle for better starts. Once you have figured out the biggest thing that is preventing your happiness, you then need to focus on how to eliminate it.

Answer this question:

What can I do to get over this thing that is holding me back?

Here are a couple of examples to that question:

“If my job is making me so unhappy, what job should I go for to make me happy?”

“If that bad break still haunts me, how can I get over it right now? What can I do for myself and my own self-worth to get over something that isn’t really me like a break-up.”

Finding the thing that is contirbuting to your greatest unhappiness, then finding a path (whether it is finding a new job or doing something for yourself) is the first step in making you happy.

IT STARTS WITH SMALL STEPS FIRST

The journey toward happiness starts today. Are you willing to do even the smallest thing to step out in front of your unhappiness? Ultimately, the journey of self-discovery and finding yourself, who you are, what you like to do, and making it a part of your life is what will make you happy. You’ve probably heard, “its not the destination, it is the journey to get there” that is the reward.

People think money and fame, a new car or new wife, a new job or new house, is what is going to make you happy. Things don’t make you happy. They can enhance happiness but they can’t make you truly happy. Otherwise we wouldn’t have celebrities and actors and famous people who die of a drug overdose. They found fame and money and all the world had to offer them, yet they were still looking for more – all because the things they thought would make them happy ultimately didn’t. So forget about money and wealth and fame, what is it inside you that will make you happy?

The first step to happiniess is taking the time to figure out what it is that will make you happen. What is that is holding you back from being happy?

It took me years to figure it out. Yet, I knew it all along. The one thing that was going to make me happy was being able to work for myself and not have to work under anyone else. Of course, that discovery led to what would I do so I could work for myself? What were my likes? What were my talents? How could I use what was inevitably me to get to a place where I could quit my job and work for me? It had to me something I enjoyed since the whole point was to make myself happy. Doesn’t make sense to quit a job, start a business or career that I hate.

When you start out on the journey to make yourself happy and push past the things that are causing your unhappiness in the first place, it opens the door to more questions and more answers to find. Little steps to your ultimate happiness goal.

Writing or journaling, even just writing down your answers to the questions I asked in this article can start you on your journey to happiness. I have long studied and used writing as therapy in my mental health business. I have written articles, studied the science, and written guide books to help people start their journel to happiness recovery.

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