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One of the biggest problems in getting over a loss or set-back is your lacking hope. If you have no hope for a better future what do you have? Not much. This is where depression plants itself in your head and the seed begins to grow. Without hope, you cannot move forward. You may think you have nothing to hope for you or you can’t see a brighter future but that is that seed of doubt growing inside you. Grieving over a loss or set back is healthy. It takes time. However, through that process we should start to see an outcome that inspires a future for us beyond that grief.

When we can’t see beyond our own loss, can’t see us moving forward from where we are now, hope begins to wither. Death doesn’t come for those who wish to wither away quick enough. That is not how life works. You certainly know that to some degree. We may have wished our own death come after we lost someone or something and it didn’t happen, did it? Why not? It was what you wished for. When we think life is over, it isn’t.

HOPING FOR DEATH THAT DOESN’T COME

Here’s the interesting point with that. Are you ready for it? You may continue to wither away, sit and live in your seed of depression, wishing it all to end, but, guess what? It doesn’t. That alone means there is hope for your future. Huh? If we wish for things to end and they don’t, that means there is something out there in the future for us. Life didn’t end because it wasn’t meant to. There IS hope.

What do you believe in? Do you really think life is meant to stay the way it is in your misery and loss and defeat? I know that isn’t 100% true because you would not be reading this right now. You wouldn’t be searching and scouring the internet for some answer to make things better for you.

There are two paths in our mind we can take. We can give up and live in our loss and depression. It is short walk and we know the route and we know everything we will see there. Or we can take the other path, it is a long and windy road but it’s a more scenic route. There will be valleys and vistas we can stop along the way but we know we can’t stay in those places long. We need to keep moving.

Even when we feel hopeless, we aren’t. Every new step, every new day, new sunrise, should bring us hope because if we are wishing it all to end for us and it doesn’t – it means it is not meant to end. Did I lose you? Likely someone stopped reading but you didn’t. You see hope where others don’t. You kept reading because you thought this guy is nuts but maybe he is onto something.

Get ready for a real mind-blowing thought. If you are like the title of this article, “Hopelessly devoted to hopelessness” you have admitted you are hopeful. You have hope in your own dedication to your hopelessness which means you are dedicated to the hope of feeling hopeless. I know, I am not likely making sense but the point is, you can’t be hopeless and have hope even in negative things like hopelessness.

Admit it – you are reading this so deep down inside you have a kernal of hope somewhere in you. It is there. It brought you here. It kept you reading. The worst has happened to you in the past and yet through all of that, you still insist on finding a way out. That is a good thing. There is a way out.

FINDING HOPE IN WRITING

I have done extensive research on how writing as therapy can make a vital difference in a person’s life. Taking the time to express your personal emotions (even of hopelessness) can have a positive impact. Writing is a simple way to find your way out of your despair and find a path to a brighter future. It may sound ridiculous but scientific studies have proven it to be the case (LINK).

I invite you to take some time to look at some of the resources here on this website and explore some options to find your way to feeling better about yourself and about how things are going. It can be as simple as you pulling out a piece of paper or finding a journal and start jotting down how you feel right now. Think about what is going on in your life that is bringing you such hopelessness and connect to your emotions about the problem right now. What has happened and how do you feel about what happened?

It is suggested you take just 20 minutes a day to write about what you are thinking and feeling for as little as 5 days. Then if you look at how you are feeling after those five days, you will see glimmers of hope from the simple task of writing for as little as twenty minutes a day. There is hope. It is inside of you. Past the grief and loss and depression, it is there. Take just twenty minutes right now to write about what you are feeling and thinking.

Here are some articles for further suggestions on writing as therapy:

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If you find you are still not finding your way to hope throught writing, I suggest you write to me directly at brian@writenowtherapy.com.